week three

week three

This is not shit.

Shit does not smell like rotten yogurt or act like eraser rubbings. It smears on things and comes out once or twice a day not once or twice a second.

You guys tricked us and I will never forgive you.

I guess I can console myself with the fact that eventually it gets better.

Right?

As you may have gathered, Tessavale has been with us since Wednesday. Those of you with children already know how that first week is and those without will not really care abot the details, so I will spare the recounting.

The first evening the oxygen guy was supposed to meet us at the house to give us more tanks, but it was late and the weather was bad so he decided to come up the next day. After our first night of baby at home they politely called at 7AM to confirm that they would be out after 11AM. As it turned out he did not leave Denver till 3:30PM and the weather was worse. I had to meet him at the Loaf n Jug on 285.

Learned an important lesson about the difference between slow and fast flow nipples. Tessavale falls asleep without eating much because slow nipples wear her out. Which means she is up more often and that is not good for us.

Despite all the sleepless nights and chaotic days we are very glad to have her home.

Dad

week two

week two
In 50 minutes Tessavale will have been out in the open for 336 hours, 14 days, 2 weeks, or 1 fortnight depending on your reckoning. All of which have been spent away from home and family. We have visited each day since her birth and we have come home each day. Except today Mom gets to stay behind and spend the night with our daughter.

While I am certain tonight will be a comfort for the heart, hers and mine, I doubt the body will be pleased. Though Mom has been steeling herself for this night by waking up around the clock to get friendly with an impersonal pump, I think the stress of not knowing exactly when the alarm will start crying ought to make sleep challenging.

Not that this week has not already been a strain in new ways and in old. Middle of the week Tessavale had what they keep calling an ‘apnic episode’. Which basically meant that she would occasionally stop breathing in her sleep. As if her new little brain was so busy processing the events and environment around her that she just got distracted and forgot some of the important things–like breathing. I can certainly sympathize, the NICU is a bustling place, but I think as Dad I need to step in to say, “We’ll have none of this laziness, you get back to breathing or else.”

They of course ran tests and found nothing but a bit of extra fluid on the brain for a possible excuse. Today they did a follow up test for an after picture to go with the before from last week. We have not seen the results of today’s test, but I can tell you based on what we have seen in the days since, she is fine and growing onward. Do not want any of this to worry you readers–that’s why we saved the details for after the fact and when we felt confident the situation had passed.

The great news is that because Tessavale has been eating from a bottle for almost seven days, has been gaining weight, has mastered the art of breastfeeding, and has been on barely above normal oxygen for many days they are finally giving us a definitive day that we will be able to take her home: Wednesday. Or maybe Thursday.

I guess that means we will need to fire up Tessavale’s room for something more than a dry run. One of our cats tested the crib, so that is good. Might need to put a dog in a onesy. Maybe run a vacuum across the carpet. This must be the part where my life changes forever?

Dad

week one

week one
A week ago Tessavale was due in 30 days. Now she is 7 days old.

Born 5 lbs 2.5 oz and 19 inches long and in her 35th of +37 preferred weeks. She has been on and off the ventilator twice, spent most of the remaining time with the slightly less invasive CPAP, and now, finally, on her second Monday she has been enjoying the comfort and passive oxygen from a plain old nasal canula.

She went from an IV in the scalp to one in the hand, the other hand, the foot, back in the scalp, hand, foot, and other foot. But she is no longer using that either and has graduated from 6 cc’s of milk to 36 at last count. She will max out at 46–probably tomorrow.

As a premie, her liver is smaller and does not process the breaking down of fetal red blood cells as quickly as it might if she had been full term. She spends most of her days wearing purple shades and sitting under 3 bright lamps to reduce the jaundice.

It has been a bit odd for us as new parents. We had planned for things and planned to plan for others, but we had not anticipated not getting to take her home with us when we left. Its like we are parents in limbo.

Maybe it will feel like this when the last one goes off to college. Knowing that we can always go see them, knowing that our lives have changed forever, but not having them here with us.

I have been told to enjoy this neutral zone–and I will try–but I can not help feeling a bit disconcerted.

Dad

The Playpen

Artists, actors, and other fools say its Taos. Nearly anyone else will argue its actually Santa Fe.

They’ll start with something they figure we can all relate to: sunsets. Then they’ll throw in something about being closer to nature. At this point they feel they have you safely warmed up to discuss contrasts: the earth and sky, the historical and contemporary, and maybe even the spiritual and concrete. If none of those sway, they’ll roll out a mysterious conclusion about the light. “The light is palpable, even flavorful. Like the wind or the rain.”

All these things are true but not for either of these places. Santa Fe is a full blown city and nothing kills a gaian shakra like a few thousand gas stations. Taos, well you’ve been there, Taos is just too touristy.

I am no eastern philosopher, but I have to think that if a place is going to be a “The Place” it has to be able to remove you and replace the you shaped void with It. Not sure you even get the curteousy of being a vessel in this case. If that were the case then you could somehow carry a bit of It away; I seriously doubt The Place is going to stand for spritual evaporation of that magnitude.

I have been to The Place. Spent months and years in The Place. I have even spent some time in the The Place Within The Place.

There are a couple of cane chairs there. When I had first been there I might have told you they weren’t that old, but since those chairs are still there 15 years later maybe they are older than I would imagine. Maybe they came with TPWTP. The tile is not spectacular. But the wrought iron grills in the adobe archways are oddly turqoise–edging more toward the aged copper found in the nearby mines than the centerpiece of an awful squash blossom pawn necklace. “God, woman! Get a bra.”

Seems like things would grow better in The Place and maybe they do, but they seem to fail in TPWTP. I can only imagine that the roses suffer from the the same inexplicable malady I do. Sure they twine with the ironwork but only with the help of a few industrial twist-ties. Ultimately, they just aren’t really there as much as you might expect.

I have brought books here. I have brought pen and paper here. Even once, foolishly early on, I brought water-colors. But there was no point.

The book closed before I could call him anything, let alone Ishmael.

The pen was recapped before the night was dark or stormy.

The brush was a lost cause before I was stupid enough to show up Here with it.

I am gone Here. I am as important and as useful as the paint on the wall. Here I am an inanimate object. All my thoughts borrowed for a time while I am here, but returned without purchase in my mind. Don’t ask, I can’t tell.

Here, God huffs on the window of my soul and it does not fog up.

I just don’t understand why the mosquitoes can’t stay away.

On the Agenda

Next up…. Gallery.

Hard to believe I am blogging a second entry in the same day, let alone on the heels of the first. But I had things to say and this was a different topic altogether.

Been lapsing into laziness witht his site and need to add a few things that I have to start bringing it back together. So the next item on the list is getting Gallery hooked up. I did a bit of searching for something else but found in the end that I liked Gallery best.

I guess the challenge ultimately is going to be learning to apply a set of styles across the board to increase the homogeneity of the site.

Wonder where I will find the time.